Healing the Easy Way

We have all had situations in our lives where we have been called to heal, let go and move on. Whether it be through an illness, relationship or career change, when we are called to heal, we are ultimatley being called to move in another direction. A direction that will be better for us, and one that will take us higher.

So why do we all resist healing so much? Is it the pain it takes to move through our hurt, to sit down with our feelings and just let them be that's so uncomforatble? Is it the fear of change, the unknown that steers us into immobility and rigidness? Why do we stay stuck when the world around us is offering us every opportunity, every nudging, every asking, every screaming even to heal, let go and move on.

Before we get to healing we must ask ourselves these very important questions and in the answering our body will be encouraged to move through the healing process. Take out a pen and paper (or mb, ipad or laptop) and write down your answers.

1. Who do I need to forgive in this situation? (partner, boss, children, myself etc)

2. How am I going to forgive them? This is a tricky one and may need some practise, but like any good muscle once you start using it, it will get stronger and it will get easier. Here are my top tips for forgiveness:

• Know forgiveness is a GIFT for yourself and not for the other person

• Know that forgiveness takes you out of the limiting past and into the PRESENT where all possibilities exist

• Have the other person involved ASK for your forgiveness i.e ask your partner to say "I am sorry I hurt you with my angry words, please forgive me", or from yourself "I am sorry I put you down constantly and don't believe in you as I should. I haven't been there for you when I should. Please forgive me". Now here's the good part, you don't have to forgive them straight away but if you do want to heal you have to do it when you feel ready. I am suggesting 10mins-1 day. Any longer than that won't be helpful and will keep us in misery lane. When you feel ready to forgive them say the words "I forgive you for.......X". Feel the weight lift off your shoulders.

• If the other person can't or won't* say those words, IMAGINE them saying those words to you. Imagine it and it will be like it happened. And if you can't imagine the other person saying it at this current stage, imagine them as an innocent child, as a child before they experienced the things that have closed their heart and shut them down, then as a child imagine them saying "Please forgive for ...........X". *If your partner constantly refuses to enter into the forgiveness process with you, the relationship may not be in your highest interests and I would question a relationship where one or more people hold onto resentment and anger without wanting to heal it.

• My favourite TEN SECOND healing process: pour a glass of clean drinking water, and put the intention on it to cleanse your body with forgiveness. If you believe in a higher power, you can also call on them at this time to support you in this forgiveness process. Have them bless the water as well and...... bottoms up! Drink it down and let the forgiveness wash over you. Visulise the water flowing to every part of the body and washing away any past hurts that now need to leave the body.

3. Is the forgiveness process complete? Are there any decisions, changes, actions I need to make to support this?

4. How do I change this situation for the better?

5. How can I support myself better than I ever have before? What do I need to do for myself that I have been expecting others to do for me?

Review your answers and go through the process as many times as necessary. Ask me if you have any questions.

Be strong, be fluid, be graceful, be sure, be light and love, be present and connected ;)

Lucy